My mother was and is my role model on how to be a woman. There is not a price or value of a woman’s worth. My mother worked full-time and always had a homemade dinner prepared for my father and us. She kept a clean house and made sure me and my siblings did our part. She was a disciplinary who did not take any bullshit. As long as you told her the truth she had your back. If she found out you lied you would have a severe price to pay…trust is everything. She also had the courage to walk away from my father because he did not appreciate her. To this day my father is still in love with my mother and my ex-husband is still in love with me. Like most men, my Dad and Ex did not know they had a good woman until it was too late. My mother has been divorced from my father for 29 years. She said she would never marry again and she didn’t, but she has been happily involved with the same man who I know love her and treat her like a Queen for the past 24 years.
I married young and the only good thing out of that marriage was my beautiful daughters. When I divorced at the tender age of 28, I told myself I would NEVER get married again. A woman tends to loose her identity when she thinks she is in love at a young age. My mother recognized my first husband was stripping me of who I was. She never interfered in my marriage, but she did say this to me, “You are not the daughter I raised; you need to find yourself again.” I did not understand her statement in the beginning, but as the years went by I realized what she was talking about and I made the painful decision to walk away from my daughters Dad.
That was the best decision I ever made in my life. Life is too short to be in an unhealthy relationship for the sake of children. I allowed myself to fall in love again and I must say when you are not looking for love that is usually when you find real love. After dating my present husband for a few years and turning down proposal of marriage because of my first bad experience. I took that leap of faith and followed my heart and married my soul mate in 1995. My old school ways, sex appeal, and personality is what attracted my husband to me. I have my Mom to thank on how to treat a man like a man should be treated and in return that man would treat a woman like a woman should be treated.
Because I stayed true to who I am and knew what I wanted in a man after my divorce, I am the happiest person in the world. I didn’t think I would ever in this life time find a man who didn’t feel threaten by me and who would loved me with his heart and soul. Women dream of falling in love with a man who treats her like a Queen a man who is secure, strong, protective, love of his family, and hardworking. My husband is my heart and soul and I thank God everyday for blessing me with the kind of man I have always prayed for. He is away on business for a week and I am missing him already, I pray he have a safe trip to Virginia and back home to me.
He is all the man I need!