Sunday, July 11, 2010

Tomorrow Is Not Promised To Us




Today marks the second anniversary of the death of my mother-n-law. I am thankful to have some of my husband's favorite recipes of his Mom in her handwriting that she wrote in a memo pad for me in 1995. I miss her kindness, gentleness, wisdom, and loving personality. Her stroke came without warning and the mercy of God called her home quickly. My husband mourned her deeply, and I know he still mourns her. She is the reason he is a strong and compassionate man and I thank her for that.

I have the saying "Tomorrow is Not Promised to us" on my mind because I am thinking of the quickness of her death and the quickness of the death of my grandfather who died 28 years ago August. I am also thinking about my on health and the health of my husband. My husband is ill and I understand the emotions he is experiencing right now. I had been there when I was diagnosis with multiple sclerosis. This is not a pity post, this is a post about strength to live today as if there is no tomorrow.

The following is an example of why we should enjoy each day we have with loved ones. I returned home Monday from my family's 35th Family Reunion. On Wednesday a family email was distributed about my first cousin Gwen being in ICU on a ventilator...I could not believe the words that were on that email because I had just load pictures from my camera onto my computer and there was a picture documenting the laughter I shared with Gwen and others Saturday evening. Fortunately, God answer prayers, Gwen was removed from ICU yesterday and it looks as if she will recover.

The point to this post is no matter what we face in life we have to enjoy every day as if it is the last day we have with love ones and friends. Self-pity and depression can push a person to the brink of death. I know from experience that is not the answer, I harnessed my self-pity of living with MS into living with a purpose; I embraced my depression as part of me and take a medication that works for me so I can keep on living. I thank God every day for making me an example for others to see. I think the years of me living with multiple sclerosis prepared me to be strong for my husband and it prepared my husband to realize life is not over. That is why I know my husband is going to be okay once he goes through the cycle of knowing he now has to live life with a chronic depilating illness.

LIVE TODAY AND EVERY DAY AS IF THERE IS NO TOMORROW!

8 comments:

Judy said...

Great post. I hope your husband recovers his health soon.

Black Diaspora said...

You are indeed an inspiration. Thank you for the blog entry, and your persistence to live life to the fullest, and on your terms.

Anne said...

Hi Debra: Stay strong for you and your husband just as he has stayed strong for you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both. Take care, Anne

Blinders Off said...

Judy, BD, and Anne:


THE DEVIL IS A LIAR...I feel as if I am being carried during these stressful times. I feel STRONGER and CALMER than I thought I would once we received the news about my husband.

THANK YOU for your prayers and concern. My husband and children comes first that is why I do not have the time to blog like I use to, however, I promise I am not gone forever :-)

@GNN said...

Good luck to you and your husband - even though I know it is not luck that carries you now. Thankyou for this inspiring post showing yet again you are not your disease.
http://notmydisease.blogspot.com/

svrbrownsuga said...

I agree, live each day like its your last.Very good post and inspirational. I hope your hubby feels better soon

Blinders Off said...

Thanks GNN and SVRbrownsuga...A vowed to fight and a fighter never quits :-)

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